This is the divorced dad journal I wish someone had handed me when I filed.
When I filed for divorce, I kept waiting for someone to hand me a system.
Something that would help me get through the day without losing my composure in front of my kids. Something that would help me lead them through what was happening without letting the noise of the process collapse the structure they needed from me.
Nobody handed me that.
So I built it for myself. And eventually, for you.
What I needed and could not find
When the marriage ended, I went looking. I looked for the book a divorced father reads in the first 30 days. I looked for the framework. I looked for the operating system that would tell me what to do when I woke up at 5 AM with my chest tight and a custody schedule to navigate before noon.
What I found instead was therapy language and recovery literature. Both have their place. Neither is what a father in the middle of a divorce actually needs.
A father in the middle of a divorce does not need to be healed. He needs to be regulated. He does not need to process. He needs to lead. He does not need to find himself. He needs to show up for his kids tonight at dinner the same way he would have shown up if none of this had happened.
The literature did not understand that. So I built what did.
What I built
It is called I’ll Carry It. It is a divorced dad journal, structured as a 90 day reset. A guided journal, designed for daily use, structured around three daily touchpoints and a weekly reset.
Morning intention. You set the day before it sets you. Five minutes with the page, before the phone, before the noise. You name one leadership action. You name your top three priorities. You decide what kind of man you need to be today.
Midday check. One question. Am I reacting or responding? If you drifted, you correct. If you held, you continue.
Evening reflection. Two binary questions. Did I lead well today? Did I protect stability for my children? Then you write. No rules, no format. Just honest.
Every seven days, a weekly reset. Wins. Where you lost composure. The conversations you have been avoiding. The standard you raise going into next week.
At days 30, 60, and 90, a milestone reflection. Not a finish line. A proof point.
That is the system. It runs daily. It does not judge. It holds the structure so you can do the work.
Why I am putting it in front of you now
I have been writing this divorced dad journal one Sunday note at a time for several months. Some of you have been reading from the start. Some of you arrived more recently. All of you have heard the same idea expressed different ways. The version of you they remember is built one decision at a time. The standard you set is the inheritance you leave. Carry what is yours. Put down what is not.
The divorced dad journal is that idea made physical. 224 pages. Smyth-sewn binding. Soft-touch deboss cover. A book built to be used every day for 90 days and carried like the standard it represents.
It ships in September.
If you have been reading along, you already know if this is for you. If you are a father in the first 90 days, or the first year, or any stretch where the noise of the process is threatening to collapse the structure your kids need, this was built for you.
What happens next
The first print run is limited. The list opens today. Everyone on the list gets first access in September, the Week One starter pages immediately, and one note from me every Sunday between now and launch.
[Reserve your copy → scott-superfine.kit.com/weekone]
I did not build this because I had it figured out.
I built it because I did not.
That is the standard.
#IllCarryIt